I mentioned before that we had reached the end of the Instant Mama blog as you have known it. But with the kids’ case still open, I hung out here with you a little while longer and want to thank you for standing by me in the wait. It was tough to see the case closed in many ways, but in many ways this is as happy an ending as anyone could wish for. Six children were kept together for two years while in the system, were kept safe, and have a better knowledge of both the world they live in and the God who made it than they ever did or would have had otherwise. And then they were allowed to return home to their mother who always wanted them and loved them. Yes, there are unpleasant uncertainties and definite deficiencies, but overall everything has great potential for turning out fine in the end and I am choosing to look at that.
It’s been a long journey. A journey I never dreamed of before it happened. I am much less naïve and innocent to the ways of the foster care system than I was before. Whether that is a good or bad thing, I am not sure. I am also now on a journey as an adoptive parent of five children that began because of my journey with these six. And while I love them all dearly, there is no doubt in my mind that we were never meant to adopt those first six as a family. There is also no doubt in my mind that we were supposed to be their family for the two years they were with us. While in the midst of the chaos there were so many questions, but I am thankful that God allows us to look back and see a clearly marked path of how we have been in His will all along. How our relationship with the children and their mother continues, as friends, remains to be seen.
And what about you? So many of you were along for the story – and what a story it was! Stranger than fiction, crazier drama than even TV or the movies at times. There were some high highs, and some low lows, and lot of everything in between. Telling the story helped me to see it better, to recognize many behaviors and attitudes for what they were underneath instead of simply surface annoyances.
But that story is finished now.
Perhaps you were along for the camaraderie. You are a fellow foster parent or an adoptive parent of children that were in foster care. Perhaps you know someone who is going through the foster care experience. This was another place you could come and know that you would be understood here. Thank you for coming – I needed that support as much as you!
But that foster parenting journey is over now as well.
Perhaps you are a friend or family member of mine. And you’re following just because it’s me. Aww, I feel so special! You may not care what I post about! If that is the case, then stay tuned.
Where does that leave us? Well, for the foreseeable future, this blog is done. I won’t promise that nothing will ever be posted here again, but this story is finished. The children who delighted us and then you for the last two years have been out of our house for six months now. Their case is now officially closed. Their foster care story has ended, and ended better than many. Our journey as foster parents ended with them leaving. I am taking the advice of the very wise man I am married to and bowing out. This story is finished.
Fortunately, his advice didn’t end there! I have loved blogging, and I have loved the community here. So he suggested that I start up a blog devoted to my new passion – speaking about adoption. I must especially speak about the adoption of children through the foster care system. Related to that is of course foster parents, children in foster care, and caring for the fatherless as God has asked of us. Fortunately, I am inviting you to move with me if you so desire!
So if you were just along for the story, or if you only seek support from an in-the-line-of-fire foster parent, or if you were just waiting to see how this story ended, then I must thank you again for the great time we have enjoyed here. This is an easy place to hop off. Perhaps we’ll bump into each other again on another blog somewhere!
But if you have a passion for adoption (or you just love me, haha), perhaps you’d like to continue to follow me over at my new blog. It is called “From Instant to Forever,” and the tagline is: “They came to me in an instant. That instant began our forever.” Fitting, right? Here is what the About page says:
Hi! I’m Instant Mama and I am excited you’ve found me. I am a follower of Christ, a wife, and a mother. I am passionate about a lot of things, but here is where I share my passion for adoption – specifically, adoption through the foster care system. I was a foster mama for two years before meeting my wonderful children who are a part of my life through adoption. Foster parents and children in foster care will always be another area of passion for me. We now celebrate the blessing and joy of adoption, but we also recognize that there has been loss and grief involved in making adoption necessary to start with. This blog discusses the many issues that are unique to adoption, especially the adoption of children who have journeyed through the foster care system and are old enough to be well aware of what is taking place. Whether you are involved in foster care, are part of an adoption trio, have friends who are involved in these, are considering adoption in any form, or are simply curious, please join me as we continue this journey! Comments and discussion are so welcome and I’d love to hear your story and your opinions. One person at a time, we can help the world become a safer place for those who don’t quite fit the traditional picture and whose story is uniquely their own. Ready to join the adventure?
Sound like something you’d be interested in? Come on over. It can be found at instant2forever.wordpress.com. If you click on Instant Mama’s Story it explains my blog title a little bit more, while of course giving some of my story. I was surprised to see that some of you have found me already, and am excited for the rest of you who will find me there as well. If you are following by email, you will just need to go to the home page and put your email address in there to begin receiving the new posts by email just like you were with this one.
Thank you all once again for the amazing blog community you have been. Your comments, advice, and experiences are priceless. And I have even gained some true friends that I do hope to someday meet in person! That definitely was not on my list of expectations when I started this blog, but is one of the things I value most now.
May you be blessed, and may the peace of God fill you and give you strength for each day.
And now I’ve got to run. I may have become a mama in an instant, but my forever is waiting…
Click here to go to the new blog: instant2forever.wordpress.com
Instant Mama refers to the speed at which I became a mama – from our first serious consideration of becoming foster parents to having six children in our home, the process took less than three months! Two years later we said goodbye to them, and focused on adoption. From our first inquiry to welcoming our five children into our home, that process also took less than three months! If you’d like more background, be sure to read How it all Began. For a recap of our fostering journey, see Instant Highlights. You can also sign up on the home page to receive new posts via email, or if you would like to contact me privately you may do so at my gmail.com account, user name instantmama.